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Mompreneurs – the Mombie on Steroids
Mombie – you've probably seen the memes floating about on social media. That exhausted, babbling, sleep deprived woman limping towards you is affectionately known as the ‘Mombie'. At one point or another we've all been one – it kind of just comes with the motherhood territory. When you add in that extra special ingredient of being a mompreneur (a mom who runs a business alongside raising a family) you get what I like to call a Mombie on steroids.
On any given day you are being pulled in a million different directions to fulfill your duties as momboss, manager, mother, pet herder, taxi driver, friend, lover, confidant, and a whole lot more.On any given day you are being pulled in a million different directions to fulfill your duties as momboss, manager, mother, pet herder, taxi driver, friend, lover, confidant, and a whole lot more. Click To Tweet
Pull these duties for long enough and it can turn you into a walking mombie. As you go through the motions checking off the boxes on your long list of to-dos, you can start to get more and more disconnected and out of touch with your body, your feelings, and your spirit. All so you can “just get through the day.”
I've spent the better part of the last 19 years as a Mombie (yes seriously). With a 2-year-old bringing up the rear in my tribe o' children, it's pretty likely Mombie brain is going to linger for a while yet. Call me crazy but I added running a business to my daily rituals (again, this isn't my first home business rodeo – I've had a few runs around the ring over the years), long story short I'm ALWAYS tired.
A Mompreneurs Dream
In a perfect world, we would all have the dream life of supportive partners and family members who swoop in and mind the children while we pursue our dreams (and I'm not just talking about the one where you have a shower alone). The reality for most mompreneurs is early mornings and late nights. Showers can start feeling like a special treat and your ‘to-do' list never ends. Your brain is on overdrive all the time . You might be making a sandwich for the kiddo but you are thinking about how you are going to get time to finish that post that was due yesterday. And most likely you wouldn't have it any other way.
While you might tell yourself that ‘one-day' you won't be so tired because the baby will sleep, you can make the kids help with the chores or you'll make enough to hire a housekeeper. The reality is it never really gets easier – parenthood just morphs. It most definitely changes, it might not be a crying baby you are up all night with. Instead you're up nervously waiting for your teenager to get home.
Take care of yourself girl!
My point is you can't put off looking after yourself right now. Don't wait for that mythical day to come where you can make yourself a priority!
I could easily churn out a list of ways to create a schedule in your gorgeous bullet journal or tell you to make sure you spend at least an hour a week basking in the glow of the moon…but I call myself a ‘real' mumpreneur for a reason. I have 5 kids and if I want to make them laugh, I show them my schedule (and the four-year-old has probably colored all over my journal) and as for basking in the moonlight? Yeah, the last time I had an hour to myself it was in a hospital waiting room waiting for the teenager to get his X-rays.
Over the years, I've learned a trick or two to help me wrestle back some brain cells and feel alive again. Don't worry these are things you can do easily even surrounded by craziness. You just need to make a conscious effort to make you a priority – and believe me, you are so worth it!
It almost kills me to say it – but lighten up on the caffeine. Keep it to a minimum, seriously. Coffee and tea end up dehydrating you and that makes you feel like crap all by itself. In the case of caffeine, less is more – or as I like to look at it – if I drink less coffee I actually get more zing from the ones I do have, than when I drink it all day every day. I'm sure you've heard it a thousand times but drink more water. For real. It makes your skin look better, helps control headaches and well just plain keeps you functioning.
Yep, I'm going there. It sounds cliche, but it's so important to feed your body well. I know this one first hand – eating the scraps off the kids plates or just grabbing what ever happened to be at hand. BIG mistake for years I was eating food that was making me feel horrible because I was actually allergic to it. Half of the reason I was feeling like such mombie was because I was living off toast – great because it was quick SO BAD because turns out I have an intolerance to wheat.
Whoops. Once I gave up the grains I felt so much better. So eat healthy – and make sure you eat YOUR healthy. If you aren't feeling great and energized after eating then you might need to take a look at what you are putting in your mouth.
Yeah, that. When was the last time you took a minute to stop and breathe?
I can almost guarantee all that running about has you breathing more shallowly which doesn’t feed your brain sufficiently.
Take 5 minutes (bonus points if it's in a quiet place) to take a few slow, deep belly breaths. Inhaling in through the nose as your belly rises and out through the mouth. Doing so will help slow down your system and lower your cortisol and stress levels. This is a good thing,
Repeat as often as necessary and make the kids do it with you! Works for them as well!
This page has a few great examples of breathing exercises you can check out.
Okay, this one I learned working as a teacher. I used to do this with the kids when they got antsy and works a treat!
Cross-lateral movement – heck you can even do this at your desk, but why not hop for a moment and give it a go.
Cross your right elbow over to your left knee as you raise your knee up and then cross your left elbow over to your right knee as you lift it up – alternating left and right for a minute or two.
How does it work? When you do a movement that crosses the midline of the body, it helps to integrate the left and right hemispheres of your brain. Gets your blood flowing and creates better coordination. It also increases the cerebrospinal fluid pumping up to your brain which helps increase concentration, focus, and memory.
Okay, so basking in the moonlight for an hour might be out of the question, but what about 5 minutes in the sunshine?
Get off the phone, step away from the computer and go outside for a walk. Even if it's just 5 minutes, walking in circles in the backyard while the kids play.
The sunshine helps trigger the production of vitamin D and serotonin, which is one of our “happy chemicals” that the body naturally produces to raise your spirits and brighten your mood.
Heck, you can even raise the ante while you're at it and eat a banana while you walk and you hit the trifecta. You are moving, eating healthy and getting sunshine! Winning!
Seriously though bananas are high in potassium and have been shown to regulate blood pressure which can shoot up when you are stressed.
They say laughter is the best medicine and they weren't kidding. When was the last time you had a good deep belly laugh?
Next time you’re feeling spaced out, pull up a silly video on Youtube and have a good belly laugh. Laughter creates a powerful punch on your stress by lowering the stress hormones of cortisol and epinephrine. At the same time triggering the production of endorphins, which can relieve some physical pain and enhances the effectiveness of T-cells to boost your immune system. How good is that?
Videos not your thing? My personal favorite is to tackle a kid and give them a tickle. I mean seriously is there anything better than a kid laughing? Kind of makes you remember why you like them too (BONUS!)
Be a kid again
Okay, so this one might seem silly and trendy, but it works. Grab yourself one of the million adult coloring books that are available. Get yourself some awesome crayons or pencils and sit down and color! Art is amazing therapy for a tired mind. This is another teacher's trick – coloring in is great for a rowdy bunch to get them centered and back on track.
Pro Tip – make sure you get the kids their own – because nothing stresses me out more than one of them messing up my coloring.
Seriously, it's a great activity and you can include the kids in on it as well so it's a double winner in my book. Kids think you are awesome for spending some one on one with them. You get to relax the old brain. It can help you stay calm as it quiets all the noise going on in your mind.
Just like it does with kids it helps you find a state of “flow”. That place of being so engaged in something that you lose track of time and you can almost end up in a meditative state. Feeling much calmer when you finish.
Here's a link to some free online coloring pages you can print.
over to you
Have you got any great tips for curing Mombie brain? I'd love to hear them in the comments below.
Thanks for swinging by,
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